WHAT IS A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

The 'Toxic Lover' is someone who engages in manipulative, controlling or abusive behaviours in relationships. Their behaviours and mind games are destructive to the psychological well being of the partner and strips them of their self-worth, confidence and sense of self.

 

I have so named this person the  'Toxic Lover' but this name also applies to parents, siblings, friends, work-colleagues, bosses. The 'Toxic Lover' is Child and Adolescent led because of their need for power and punishment.

 

The Inner Mentor Guidance System provides the tools to notice and manage such subtle and overt behaviours as the 'Toxic Lover' triggers the needs of the vulnerable Inner Child.

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Below are examples of the 'RED FLAGS' ​

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•  Love-Bombing and Withdrawal

• Constant Criticism

• Gas lighting

• Controlling Behaviour

• Isolation

• Jealousy and Possessiveness

• Silent Treatment

• Emotional Blackmail

• Frequent Lying

• Disrespect for Boundaries

• Blame-Shifting

• Financial Control

• Public Humiliation

• ​Lack of Accountability

• Intimidation and Threats

• Constant Monitoring

• Emotional Withholding

• Invalidating Feelings

• Stonewalling

• Unrealistic Expectations

• Minimising Achievements

• Sarcasm and Passive Aggression

• Having to Walk on Eggshells

• Conditional Love

• Guilt Tripping

• Hyper-Criticism of Appearance

• Neglecting Needs

• Triangulation

• Excessive Dependency

• Score Keeping

• Weaponising Insecurities

• Forcing Unwanted Intimacy

• Making Threats During Arguments

• Creating a Power Imbalance

• Playing the Victim

• Invalidating Accomplishments and Dreams

• Physical Aggression

• Demanding Forgiveness Quickly

• Unreasonable Expectations of Loyalty

• Threatening to Reveal Secrets or Personal Information

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